I had a blast last night hanging out in Santa Monica with one of my oldest friends in the world. As we were catching up about her travels & my fav iPhone apps among other things, we also reminisced about all of the past and present characters in our lifes. We both realized how much we had gone thru together as friends and that the compassion and love we have always given each other had been a strong factor in our spiritual and emotional growth. Having someone you can open up to makes a world of difference when one feels vulnerable. I encourage you to appreciate those people in your life as they are not only an ear/shoulder to cry on but also a witness to your evolution as a being. I am constantly reminded by my friends of things I have said when I felt strong or weak, happy or sad. It's a good reminder of what you have gone thru and that not only you did survive it but it made you the person you are today.
Acceptance is a state of mind.
Keeping with the theme of catching up with old friends, I went on an early hike (8 am) with my oldest guy friend in L.A whose relationship ended a week ago. We bonded over our loss while checking out the gorgeous Jake Gyllenhal who happen to be hiking the trails as well. Being heartbroken does not make me blind, ok.... But I digress, back to my friend... After 22 months, his boyfriend called it quits stating the very same reasons mine did. But unlike myself, this was the first time this had ever happen to him. Needless to say he has been going through an array of new emotions. Hope, fear and sadness. Hope for his love to come back, fear to not find another love, sadness to wake up alone.
He also realized that in the past, he was not as compassionate as he could have been to other heartbroken friends since he had never been dumped before and did not know the pain heartbreak causes. I was truly touched by how vulnerable and open he was but also amazed by his acceptance of the situation. He understood where things were in his relationship and life and therefore was allowing himself to be vulnerable and open. Acceptance is a state of mind that helps you dissolve negative feelings, cherish the memories and more importantly move on and heal.
As Buddha said: "A jug fills drop by drop". Today, I choose to add a drop of acceptance to mine...
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