I am not exactly sure what phase of a breakup experts would call this, but as I get close to not celebrating the 6th month anniversary (how ironic to call it an anniversary) of the end of my relationship, certain things have become clear. First, I have changed a lot these past few months. I am a lot more reserved and introspect. I have come to appreciate friends and support in a whole different light. I have started listening in a different way too. Truly focusing on my friend's journeys and understanding a bit more of the process. Nothing is a given in life and there is always room for improvement I have learned. I also have learned that everyday is a new change for a changed perspective and that a changed perspective opens new doors. I have also learned the nuances love can have. Physically, I have worked hard at getting rid of pounds keeping me down (wow that rhymes...!). Overall, this has been a heavy intense experience I did not look for but manage to make the best of. Reminds me of that "when lifes gives you lemons, make lemonade" Saying. My friend Omar declared us to be in the nuclear winter of our dating life. I died laughing and agreed. I have zero desire to see who and what else is out there as this journey of self discovery and appreciation is now just starting to become fun. More me and less of someone's story.
Just when I was ready to declare myself a love pessimist, I came across this post (see below) on JLO and her recent divorce. After 4 marriages, she was quoted saying:
“Sometimes it doesn’t work—and that’s sad. But I remain an eternal optimist about love. I believe in love,”
You go JLO!
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Photo by Mario Testino.
Photo by Mario Testino.
Just when I was ready to declare myself a love pessimist, I came across this post (see below) on JLO and her recent divorce. After 4 marriages, she was quoted saying:
“Sometimes it doesn’t work—and that’s sad. But I remain an eternal optimist about love. I believe in love,”
You go JLO!
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Jennifer Lopez Gives Vanity Fair Her First Interview Since Announcing Her Divorce from Marc Anthony
Photo by Mario Testino.“That was my biggest dream, and I really worked hard at it. We both did,” Jennifer Lopez tells Vanity Fair in her first interview since announcing that she and Marc Anthony are divorcing. “Sometimes it doesn’t work—and that’s sad. But I remain an eternal optimist about love. I believe in love,” Lopez says. “It’s still my biggest dream. I am positive—determined to move forward with my life, bring up my babies, and do the best job I can as a mother, entertainer, and person. I now look forward to new challenges. I feel strong.”
Lopez opens up to contributing editor Lisa Robinson about her life with Anthony and the example she hopes to set for her children; she talks about her relationship with P. Diddy and breaking off her engagement to Ben Affleck; she’s honest about the diva rumors that surround her, and shares her attitudes toward money, fame, and especially love. “I’m a hopeless romantic and passionate person when it comes to love,” Lopez explains, describing the passage that has brought her to her current state of mind. “It’s not that I didn’t love myself before. Sometimes we don’t realize that we are compromising ourselves. To understand that a person is not good for you, or that that person is not treating you in the right way, or that he is not doing the right thing for himself—if I stay, then I am not doing the right thing for me. I love myself enough to walk away from that now.”
“I will always respect Marc as a singer and performer,” Lopez tellsVanity Fair. “We actually work great together, and he was always very supportive. Together we could make magic—and we did. He will always be in our lives. He will always hold a special place in my heart as the father of my children.”
Photo by Mario Testino.
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